I have divorced my wife by agreement (kyogi rikon) in which I granted her the custody of our kid against the verbal promise she would let me see him, once we got divorced she cut contact, and I brought the case to the family court in a hope to get some visitation rights, and they hold what they call a conciliation meeting, in the meeting they request me to pay her a lump sum, for her expenses for a few months while she was living with her mother before the divorce got registered, and pay 10000yen/month for my kid, I was paying 50000yen/month before but now I am only willing to pay the minimum 30000yen/month because I consider that my wife tricked me and spend a lot of money just before leaving me.
Also her parents who are the garantors for my appartment want to break the deal, so if I understood well I would have to find another Japanese to be my garantor since from what I understand a foreigner by himself cannot rent an appartment.
To me it seems the people at the family court were trying to trick me in giving her what ever she wanted in a vague promise of seeing my kid eventually. I was upset and said I was not willing to pay, to which they told me the case would be brought to the district court.
Since the divorce is already proceeded can they really do this ?
And I guess the only chance I have to see my kid again is to rely on the good-will of my wife ?
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