I just wanted to hear some advice or thoughts from father's and mother's Japanese or foreigners living in Japan. I really believe that a child needs a father. However I have been in an unhappy marriage for the last 3 years. We are foreigners here but because of my mother being Japanese I can live here long term. I have tried everything to keep the family together but due to alcoholism and violence I realise that I must leave my husband. It sounds bad but I am really thinking of taking advantage of the unfair system here in Japan to take my child away.
I have asked my husband to leave amicably and that I would agree to him having a part in our child's life. However he starts to threaten me and my family so I back down and am waiting for the right moment to leave so that he can't hurt anyone anymore. His own family does not want anything to do with him so I feel trapped. I listen to the stories of the fathers wanting to be with their children and I really feel for them. If you were in my husband's situation what do you think is the best way to deal with this situation.
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