Hello My anme is Graham Jones and I have a beautiful little son Called Kenshiro. He has just turned 5 and I haven't seen him for 1 year now.
I'm going to start my story in 1999. I am married and I have moved to Japan with my pregnant wife. Our goal is to save enough money to come back to Australia to live and to buy a house and add to our family.
)n the 7th of may 1999 our son is born. We take him home and we live with the mum. Eventually the 3 of us get our own place and I get a job teaching English at a private school and working in the elementary schools.
In 2001 my wife was told she had a tumor growing in her pertuitary gland ( sorry forgot how to spell ) which is where female hormones are produced. She had an operation to have it cut out and ended up spending about 3 weeks in hospital. Let me tell you it was a very scary experience. The doctor told us she could loose her sight and she was also told that she would not be able to concieve in the future. The operation went well and she has been told that she can concieve.
After the operation things started to go down hill with me working very long hours and my wife being stuck at home by herself during the day. She couldn't speak a lot of english and she would get very frustrated. I can speak Japanese but not like a native. She eventually blamed me for giving her stress and the reason for getting her tumor. I was pretty upset when she said that as I couldn't understand why.
We decided to go back to Australia in March 2003. 2003 January comes and we pack everything up and send it all to Australia. We move out and spend the rest of our time at her mothers house. ( her mother and father are divorced ) She tells me about 1 month before we are due to go back that she doesn't want to go now and that she loves her country to much to leave it. I said " ok lets live in Japan" She said " I don't love you any more". I was pretty upset at hearing that ! I'm not a perfect person and every couple has their ups and downs but they work through it. You have to at least try for your kids sake! I eventually move out for a while and stay with friends.
I felt very lonley at that point. I eventually talked her into at least giving it a try in Australia for Kens sake. She said ok but you go first and I will follow with my sister later when you get set up in an apartment. I trusted her to come to Australia. ( this is a long story cut short )
She came for one month with her sister and then asked me for a divorce and she wanted to go back to Japan with our son. I told her that I wanted to keep my son here in Australia for a lot of reasons that I won't go into now. She basically told me that if she couldn't take Ken with her that her life wasn't worth living. I couyldn't have that over my head so I agreed to the divorce and I let her take Ken.
It has been a year since she left and in that time she has said she is sorry and she said I will let you have contact with Ken any time. She kept her promise for a while but things change. She has told me that she would come back to live in Australia 3 or 4 times since but every time the time comes she gets sick and says that her body is to weak to travel.
Now I have no contact with my son and she will not answer my e-mail or my phone calls. Her family will not talk to me either. I love my son very much and I was very close to him. Now I have nothing except the photo's and the memories. I feel depressed every day. Every time I here a child say " Daddy... " I always here my sons voice in my head. I wish I could see him to let him know that I didn't run away from him but that I love him. I send letters, money and presents but I don't know if they get to him or not. I think they want to make him 100% Japanese and try to get to forget that his Daddy is Gaijin......
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